I was talking with a friend about career and resetting his career and he shared something insightful.
He said, “I often feel alone in resetting my career — like I’m the only one who hasn’t figured it out and who has these questions. I look around at successful friends and can’t figure out why they know what they’re doing and I don’t. Plus, I don’t want to discuss it with my work colleagues because we work for the same place, nor do I want to talk with my friends, because they seem to have it figured out. So I just don’t talk about it.”
If you could see what I see on a weekly basis through coaching you would recognize that few people have it figured out and, in fact, those who find their life’s work are the ones who are actively looking.
My goal is to bring together the many people nationwide who want to love what they do and get paid to do it. I want to help them figure out how to make that happen. To that end, I’ve got a short survey with an option for anonymity for anyone who is resetting or considering resetting (translation: if you don’t love your job and think you might want to do something else, take the survey).
TAKE THE SURVEY
Solutions are coming. Based on feedback from the survey, and other things I have in the works, I’m preparing to launch several options to help people move towards something they love.
And, if nothing else, know that you’re not alone. According to Gallup, between 75-80% of the American workforce is disengaged in the work.
I attended a mastermind meeting recently with a group of consultants doing important work in the city of Houston. Each one introduced themselves and talked about their work, but one specifically stood out.
She said the turning point in her work was driving home one day and reflecting on three questions:
That last one is money. I may be passionate about leading leaders, crunching numbers, or litigating cases — with strengths that align — but my background may be lacking the credentials or experiences to make the leap.
If this is true for you, never fear. There is a solution. Identify the gaps in your credentials and experiences and go get them.
I’m impressed by a guy I recently talked to who made a serious leap from college counseling to financial advising. He lacked the certification to do it, so he buckled down and cranked out a 14-month certification program in the evenings. It was brutal. But now, 14-months later, he was hired to do what he loves.
If you’re not uniquely position, by all means, position yourself.
Usually, people are willing to give you the experiences and credentials all day. The question is, are you willing to make the sacrifices to do it?
So you’re thinking about changing jobs. You’re exploring what’s next and the many options you could pursue.
If you come to me for coaching, one of the first questions I’ll ask is this:
Are you running from something or to something?
There’s a difference.
Running from something means you’re tired of the work, the boss, the money, the environment, the rat race, the commute, or something else. I’d argue that if this is you, you are not prepared to do what you love. People don’t land in best-fit careers by running away.
They land in best-fit careers by running to them. Intentionally. They choose them.
If you’re running to your dream, you envision it, plan for it, take intentional steps to get there, and you make it.
You aren’t a victim of circumstance, you are a beneficiary of intentional effort and decision-making.
If you’re running away, my suggestion would be to “just get a job.” Find something else — anything, but ideally something more aligned to your Profile of Self — and then, when the smoke clears and the dust settles, figure out where you really want to be.
A deficit mindset makes dreaming impossible.
People who don’t achieve their goals, that’s who.
I speak from experience on this. The years when I hate setting resolutions are typically the years when the goals feel audacious, I didn’t accomplish what I intended the year before, or my goals lack clarity.
The reality is that goals are the only way we get anything done ever, whether we explicitly set them or not.
Whether we realize it or not, our life is driven by goals. The only reason you get up in the morning, eat food, and go to work is because you set micro-goals.
Goals work. We use them all the time.
Why not make them intentional and meaningful?
I use the the following categories and set 1-3 SMART goals in each:
What makes a great goal? For me, it’s simply about specificity and deadline. Also, I should be able to pinpoint when it’s complete.
For example, “I want to get healthy” isn’t a goal, it’s an aspiration. “I want to work out five times a week” is more of a goal, but lacks specificity. “I want to work out five times a week at 5:30am like this: M — Run for 30 min, T — Chest/Back, W — Run for 30 min, Th — Legs, Fri — Run for 30 min.”
That’s a goal that’s likely to happen.
Once your goals are set, read over them keeping in mind the three things that derail goals:
But what if I don’t accomplish them?
“We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we’ve established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile.”
It was never only about the goal in the first place.
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