Answer these questions:
1. Do you truly believe that with effort and persistence you can make your dream happen?
2. Are you willing to dive in and learn, to be wrong, to stumble and fall and fail in order to learn, and grow, and succeed?
If you can answer “yes” to both then you’ll make it happen. So stop questioning, wondering, doubting, and over-planning. Just do it. In fact, if you can answer “yes” you probably are already doing it.
If you’re like me, you probably are hesitant to boldly answer “yes.” Willing to fail? That doesn’t sound fun.
This is where career coaching lives. It’s goal is to convince you that the fixed mindset — that only talented and intelligent people win and that you don’t have enough of either — is holding you back. And that the growth mindset — with effort and persistence you can learn what you need to know — will get you where you want to go.
“For twenty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?” The growth mindset creates a passion for learning instead of a desire for approval. (From Carol Dweck, renowned Stanford researcher on mindsets)
“The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.”
Pursuing your passion is about getting your mind right. Give up on validating yourself and instead develop yourself.
When I write, I think narrow. Really narrow. In fact I have an image in my mind right now of my target audience.
They are likely working a job that doesn’t fit. It’s either opposite of who they are or it’s some of who they are but not enough. Just like that Marshmallow Matey’s cereal is almost Lucky Charms but a little more stale and chalky. It has the appearance of goodness but an unpleasant aftertaste.
They believe it’s possible that doing something they love and getting paid enough to thrive can coexist. They’ve either had a parent or mentor who’s done it, a friend who’s doing it, or they have read about people who love their work and get paid to do it.
When they are at their most in-tune and authentic they feel pushed to make a change and do something more satisfying. They read this blog because it pushes them, strengthens them, or motivates them to make the change.
In other words, I write for me, nine years ago.
If you’re not one of us — believers that it’s possible to enjoy what you do for a living and get paid well to do it — you’re still welcome to read. The same principles that you use to find a satisfying career apply in many parts of life.
But my real focus is helping people who want to do what they do best for a living. They want to figure out what they do best, learn how to do more of it, and develop it now, and prepare to launch into a new era where they do it full-time and get paid well at the same time. This is my tribe. These are my people. I help people figure out what they do best.
This blog isn’t written for everybody. In fact, it’s for a small niche. That’s what motivates me to write.
Think about what you really want to do. Who is your tribe? Hint: they aren’t defined by standard demographics but by purpose. Figure this out, find a way to serve them and add value to their lives and voila! You have a career.
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made over the past few years trying to magnify my talents is to assume everyone wants what I have to offer.
I’m all about career resets. I love helping people figure out what they really want to do and do it. But not everyone wants this. When I try to serve the needs of those who don’t want serving I get discouraged because they aren’t my target audience.
People want it, but not everyone. The key to getting paid to do what you love is to find your niche — your tribe — the group of people who are all tied together by a common interest.
Seth Godin suggested that a group of 1,000 is sufficient to sustain a career.
But all of this hinges on your willingness to put what you do very best out there in the world to be observed, benefited from, sometimes judged, and ultimately utilized by those who need it most.
Remember, your talents and gifts weren’t given to you for your own benefit. A gift is no good if it’s not given to another. Find the group that needs what you have to offer and give the people what they want!
Fear. That’s why. Plain and simple.
“I don’t know if I’ll make enough money.”
“What if I’m not as good as I think I am?”
“What if I fail?”
“Can I make a living doing this?”
“I would have to give up too much.”
These are all statements I’ve made over a 10-year career. And they are all rooted in the same thing. Fear of something. Fear of loss. Of failure. Of starvation. Of being wrong. Of looking dumb. Of regret.
The worst part for me about fear is that it’s my own voice in my head. If someone else tells me I’ll fail I feel competitive. But when it’s my own voice I give in. Don’t give in.
Don’t ignore fears. But also don’t let them take control. Acknowledge them and do it anyway.
How you start your day impacts how you finish.
Think about it this way: a runner who is slow off the blocks will likely never recover enough to win the race. They may make up ground and even be competitive but they won’t WIN.
Winning begins with the starting line. It’s all about how you launch.
Every morning I wake up, hit the showers, and sit in my favorite recliner to study scripture, pray, and meditate. Before my family ever sees me I’ve accomplished something significant and momentum has begun to build.
I have a good friend who wakes up each morning and reads the paper. He then heads out on a run, hits the shower, and heads into work. By the time he’s arrived, he’s made more progress than the average human being and has accomplished at least two things that not only bring him joy but also build momentum.
If you are waking up and getting straight to work you are missing out on one of the most powerful principles of productivity and success: momentum. Momentum comes from doing what Stephen Covey calls “sharpening the saw,” or preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have — you.
Are you feeling stuck? Have you hit a monotonous rhythm? Do you want to catalyze some growth and change? It’s as easy as starting in a different way tomorrow morning. Set your alarm for 30 minutes earlier and do something you enjoy.
The benefits far outweigh the extra sleep.
Hi! I'm Dustin.
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